Ok, after a lengthy Google chat session with Erica O’Grady this morning, I realized that sometimes haters are nothing more than servants. Slaves. The Help. I guess it stems from observations over time, but if you notice in history the people who store their hatred for people, things, ethnicities, etc. end up becoming a slave to their object of hatred.
First off, out of an abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks. That’s tried and true. No matter what, the truth always rises out of a person’s heart and comes out in their communication, verbal and nonverbal. So, liars are generally trying to cover up what’s in their heart but to no avail usually. Haters, on the other hand, speak out of both sides of their mouths. Most haters must praise you in your face and then keep you at the forefront of their conversations when you’re not around. Sounds like servitude to me. Often times, their conversations about you are based on their emotions (usually jealousy, pride, or fear) surrounding your talents, status, or possessions.
I’m still trying to get into the psyche of haters. I mean, you have to be preoccupied with that thing in order to keep up with its progress and weave into your cares and concerns. However, you hate it/them. Haters spend time researching and tracking these things, which seems like something a servant does for his master.
It just doesn’t pay to hate. Ultimately, people filled with hate literally do end up becoming enslaved by their hatred and oppressed by the very thing that they hate. For instance, when Mel Gibson had his anti-semitic tirade a while back, he had to spend time learning about Judaism and sitting with rabbis and other Jewish officials. Some could say that he has become subservient to Judaism all because of his hatred. He had to give of his time, make public announcements and appearances, and denounce himself to the obscure hatred he’d been carrying since God knows when. I’ve never had or felt this consuming hatred, but it plays out like this in other scenarios, too.
Goes the same with your personal haters. Often time, your haters have to end up “serving time” by keeping your name in their mouths even when the conversation at hand really could have gone without your name. Keeping up with the cliche, any publicity is good publicity. Your haters can talk you down, but if your actions contradict their rhetoric (and that’s all it is…it’s not prophecy or truth), what do you have to fear?
I know there are some who may say that hating does not equate to servitude, but they’re just hating. So, lesson learned: don’t hate. You’re just a servant in the process. Chances are, your invites out for meals and hanging out will diminish too. No one wants to eat with “the help.”
